I generally have a lot of patience. Today and yesterday it has worn down to nothing. First I'm in a lot of pain with my mouth, that doesn't help. Secondly, the kids have forgotten in the last week how to pick up their things. I think they think that because they are on summer break they don't have to pick up. Well they are wrong. Tyler is rocketing into his preteen years with attitude. It's now extremely important to listen and take into consideration his feelings. It however is also important he understands our point of view. This sounds simple, it's not. As a preteen their emotions are all that there is. So we are entering a new stage with him. Julie now changes her clothes two or three times when she gets dressed and struggles to settle on something she likes. She gets frustrated and cries. So both of the older two are entering different phases of their development and they are beginning to clash in the worst way. The fights between them are no longer about Julie not wanting to play xbox or Tyler not wanting to go outside. It's you be quiet, make me, I will.... really? you've got to be kidding me. So now instead of simple problem solving compromising resolutions, we've resorted to encouraging them to spend time apart until they cool off. This is difficult for them as they get bored easily and always seem to want someone to play with.
I'm scared to think that this might be what our whole summer is like. Let alone the next 4 or 5 years as they adjust into adolescents I guess it is time for me to change my parenting skills a little to accommodate their changes. It is happening a lot sooner then I anticipated, they are rapidly growing from young kids, to young adults. It feels too soon. I guess you just have to do what feels right and hope that it's what is right. Hang on here we go, feels like we've started a new roller coaster ride.
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