Opinions/Kids Emotions

I've realized everyone has their own opinions about everything. I've also learned that you can't make everyone happy. As a parent I have an obligation to my child no matter which one, to keep him/her happy and healthy. I also have an obligation to teach them right from wrong, and that for every action is a consequence. There is nothing more heartbreaking to a parent then to wonder if they are doing the right thing with their child. No truer statement has been said, "Opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one.".

So I follow my heart, why do I still feel sometimes that what I feel needs justification. That I need to explain why I'm doing what I'm doing. I guess it's one of those demons of the past coming back again.

If I don't explain, I don't feel I need to, or I've already told you and you didn't listen. If you don't like it too bad. I can't make everyone happy, but at the same time I can't let everyones opinion run my life. My life is mine, not everyone else's. If they had listened when it mattered then maybe they wouldn't be in the situation they are in. Maybe it would be better, maybe it would be worse. It is what it is, and I'm happy!! I'm loved, and appreciated. The kids are happy, loved and appreciated in a stable home where they know what to expect. I've been as nice as I'm going to be. Which I think has been nice enough, considering the past. I gave you the truth, you didn't believe me. So that's it, I'm done dealing with your mouth.

Some people do everything they can to make everyone else around them feel like crap. With what they say, and how they act. The only one that matters to them, the only persons feelings that matter are their own. So the people around them are expected to bend to what they want, and tiptoe around them. These people really make me angry. They cause the people around them to feel inferior to them and that their feelings are not as important as their own. They do this through intimidation and creating an environment where others fear them.

As people we all have the right to feel what we feel. There is no one persons feelings that are more important then anyone else's. When my children hurt it is just as important as when I hurt. When they are angry it's just as important as when I'm angry. Children are people too. They need to feel like they matter, and that what they do makes a difference. They need to understand it's okay to feel sad, angry, happy, or upset. As parents it's our job to teach kids healthy ways to express and deal with emotions, and that repression is not an option. Fear hinders communication. That is all.